We can\u2019t always prepare for the things our children will share with us, but it\u2019s important that we do everything in our power to make sure our kids feel safe and loved no matter what they tell us. If your child has talked to you or another adult or child about their sexual or gender identity, it may be especially important to ensure you respond with understanding and acceptance. In this blog, we\u2019ll talk a bit about how you can help your child as they explore their sexual and gender identity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Your child is trying to understand themselves, and it\u2019s very important that they felt safe and confident telling you about it. If they hear judgmental responses from you, the only likely response on their part is to stop coming to talk to you. If you\u2019re upset or worried, talk to the other parent or another adult when your child is not present. Don\u2019t make any issues you have with this situation your child\u2019s issues<\/a>. Express your love and support of them no matter what.<\/p>\n\n\n\n It can be difficult for parents of younger children to believe what their child says about their sexual or gender identity. Parents may have thoughts like, \u201cThey\u2019re only a child; how would they even know about their sexual orientation or gender?\u201d or, \u201cThey\u2019ll grow out of this.\u201d This is you trying to understand and come to terms with your child\u2019s truth. It\u2019s okay for you to have these thoughts, but your child should only hear you validate and affirm their experiences. Let them know you\u2019ve heard them, and you believe them. Tell them you love them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n If your child is sharing this situation with you, the odds are good they feel overwhelmed and confused. They may have a lot of questions. Don\u2019t feel like you need to answer all of their questions, but you can show your love and support by helping them find answers. Whether that means an online search or talking to a professional or someone in the LGBTQIA+ community<\/a>, do whatever you can to help your child better understand and explore their emerging identity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Speaking of communities, being in regular contact with people who share your child\u2019s sexual or gender identity can help them feel more comfortable and confident. These people can also help your child find answers to questions as they continue exploring their newfound identity. They can also ensure your child feels safe and connected. We all want and need a community. Encourage your child to find theirs.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Heterosexual relationships are overwhelmingly what is seen on TV, in movies, in books, and through other media representations. Work to seek out diverse and inclusive media for your family, so your child can see good representations of the many different types of relationships.<\/p>\n\n\n\n2 \u2013 Believe & Validate Their Experience<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
3 \u2013 Ask if They Have Questions & Work with Them to Find Answers<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
4 \u2013 Support Them in Finding Their Community<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
5 \u2013 Make Their Sexual & Gender Identity Part of Your Life<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
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